Three Is A Crowd

When a situation gets sticky people tend to look for phrases to justify their actions. But when do these phrases and quotes become a cliche and when are they relevant. Couples use 'three is a crowd' to get privacy for intimate moments and conversations. On the other hand people use it to excuse themselves from situation were they would be deemed as the 'candle holder'or 'pant hanger'. This meaning they want feel uncomfortable around a couple and therefore feel like they are intruding in the couples personal space. 

I feel this phrase goes deeper than these light social situations. Women are generally regarded as being more about their relationships to their friends than men. This is cool when they are bragging about how good he is and making the friends jealous. It is only when things get sour that the sharing becomes a problem. 

So she has been bragging and the friends are jealous; now things are bad, how do the friends react? All of a sudden everyone becomes an agony aunt and a Dr. Phil. There is nothing wrong with getting advise from friends or even family. There is however a thin line between advise and being told what to do. This is when the bias comes in. When you get advise on someone about someone else it is never objective as it is influenced by the person's feelings toward the person and subject in question. 

I feel this is when three is a crowd. If something happens between two people until it is evident they cannot solve it on their own it is better they try deal with it between themselves. This is because the people know each other better and understand each other better. When a third party comes in and hears ones side of a story then throws in their two sense, it usually results in a simple issue being blown out of proportion. I think that is why people find it better talking to strangers or even posting their problems on social networks. They are looking for an unbiased perspective, but that is a topic for another day. 

So to my lady friends before you go cry to your friends about what he did, try deal with it with him first. If that does not work, get advise not instructions because at the end of the day it is just the two of you in that bed, unless...........

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